Let’s face it, there no worse feeling than being stuck in a toxic relationship. Wether it’s a friendship or a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, it sucks either way. It feels like there’s no way out… and sometimes you don’t even realize you’re in a toxic relationship until somebody has to talk some sense into you.
I’ve been in a toxic friendship for about two years now. I never really thought of it as our friendship being toxic. All the warning signs were there though.
Signs of a toxic relationship:
- All take, no give
- Lack empathy
- Love to gossip
Those are just some of the many many signs of a toxic relationship. Even when you do realize that somebody in your life is toxic to you, it can be so hard to let them go. Especially if you’re very close to one another. If you’re like me, you can be a pushover at times… or all the time. I’d do anything for anybody, even if they’ve constantly wronged me and caused me pain. That’s what a toxic person will thrive off, your lack to give in and say no when it needs to be said.
I never thought I was in a toxic friendship. I thought it was normal for me to give me all and not get anything in return. I thought it was alright for a “friend” to wanna be with me all the time for a week, then disappear for a month. I remember always wondering when this friend would show back up and want to be around me. It was always a mystery. A game I played and each time I played again I lost.
Now that I know that’s how I shouldn’t be treated, I knew that it was time for me to get out. I remember sitting there crying, telling myself I’m so stupid for not seeing it. I was mad at myself for letting it go on this long. I told myself it’s not alright for me to sit up at night wondering why my friend has disappeared for four weeks and hasn’t tried to contact me.
I’m not going to let it happen to me anymore. I’m not going to cry over somebody who doesn’t deserve my attention. I’m not going to stress myself out over this person. I’m not going to let myself be pushed around by anybody. I know what I deserve now. I deserve people who want to be around me. People who won’t push me around and make me feel like crap when I do something wrong.
If any of you are in a toxic relationship, YOU CAN GET OUT! Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and tell somebody that’s not how a friend should be treated. Same thing for a relationship. Don’t stay around somebody because you feel forced to. Get the hell out of there and make yourself happy!