This has been a topic a lot of people want me to talk about. A few weeks ago, I wrote about my experiences with social anxiety and that I deal with it on a day to day basis. So many people have been emailing me and commenting that they want me to talk about how I deal with it everyday since it’s such a big part of my life. That’s exactly what I’m going to be talking about today. Let get into it!
Disclaimer: These tips are how I cope with my social anxiety. These might not help for you because everybody deals with it differently.
- Talk to somebody: This is the first thing I would do. I would talk to somebody I’m comfortable with. I always go to Andrew. Although he doesn’t have social anxiety (he’s a social butterfly), he tries to understand what I go through and be there for me when I’m feeling overwhelmed. He has learned that I don’t like being surrounded by people, I have a hard time being in little rooms with lots of people and sometimes it’s hard for me to even be around my friends. But he’s always been there and helped me through it. 💙
- Know your safe places: This one sounds weird, but I always keep in mind where I feel the most comfortable and relaxed. Like if it’s a certain room in a house, or certain seats at a table where you don’t feel like people are extremely close to you. I like to sit in a corner of a couch, or at the end seat at a table. It makes it easier to be around a large group of people.
- Take breaks and give time to recharge: A few weeks ago I was constantly around people for 3 days straight, with only a few hours alone to sleep. By the end of those three days I was sooo exhausted. I was physically and mentally drained and could barley keep my eyes open. The next day I slept for 12 hours straight. Then the next day I still stayed at home and “recharged” and that’s something I find very calming. I don’t have to talk to anybody unless I want to, I can choose if I want to be on my phone or I can just sleep. If you have social anxiety, I would take at least one day a week to stay at home all day, be alone and do what makes you happy.
- Step out of your comfort zone!!: Warning! Only do this if you are completely ready and want to. If you don’t think you’re ready then there’s no need to stress yourself out over it. Take your time and go at your own pace. Start out small then try to do bigger things. Start by going to a small party with friends. Try going bowling with a few people you’re close to. Socialize! Then as you get comfortable with that, go bigger! GO to a concert or somewhere that has a lot of people. Never stop challenging yourself!
These are some tips I use to help with my social anxiety. Over time my anxiety has gone down, but I still have good days and bad days. I don’t think it will ever go away, but there are ways I can deal with it and make myself stronger. What are some things you do to deal with it? Let me know in the comments! 💙